Undiagnosis

Five years ago I was fine. Each day I slapped on that extra wide fake smile and told myself that life was ‘fine, fine, fine’. All areas of my life, relationships, work and health were as they should be; all grand and busy and consuming and oppressive and well …. pointless. Maybe my body had had enough, maybe it just takes that long to register that you are not happy but after ten years of living in Ireland my body shut down as I became homeless, fiance-less, friendless, jobless and childless. It all happened so suddenly that I did not really understand the gravitas this would have on the rest of my life.

I moved back to the UK and in with my Parents and after about a year I was able to slap that smile back on my face with a demanding Spa Managers job, expensive swanky flat in Chelsea, a place on a degree course and a new man – life was grand, busy and pointless once again.

I had solved all problems but one. The new home, new friends, new job and man kept me busy  consuming most of my time. I was up 6am to midnight between working and studying. In addition to these demands and deadlines I attempted to learn French, took ballet and yoga lessons, went to parties on weekends, drank expensive wine and began an unhealthy obsession with social media.

Three years ago this June* I bent over at work in excruciating pain. I ignored it. We had an extremely high profile soon-to-be Grammy award winning singer visiting each week alongside journalists, socialites and Chelsea FC Wives and Girlfriends. It was my sole responsibility to ensure everyone left happy, money rang through the tills and the staff didn’t kill each other. I was too busy for pain so I continued on. July 2013 I was convinced I had some strange stomach ‘thing’ as my diet consisted of frothy coffees, half a pot of hummus and 2 Marlborough Menthols (I rarely got the chance to smoke during working hours and I worked through lunch). As a reward I would go to a michelin starred restaurant on Thursdays and order steak and drink wine – life was good. In September 2013 the pain was so great I collapsed several times and thought for sure my appendix was going to burst. In October Chelsea & Westminister sent me home with a request for an ultrasound for a pelvic cyst. In December I moved out of the flat, had lost my job and had left my course. I had not slept for two months and was experiencing sleep deprived schizophrenic episodes.

What began next is what I refer to as Undiagnosis 

an ailment worse than any other.

Undiagnosis leaves you scared, confused, anxious, tired, frustrated, pained and hopeless. It brings with it depression, lethargy, mania, insomnia and fear. Undiagnosis can last for several years with you bouncing from GP to Consultant to Specialist to Mental Health Team. Undiagnosis can also be fatal

My Undiagnosis is a confusion between wether I have Endometriosis or PMDD. Endometriosis is a condition where tissue from the womb lining appear outside of the uterus and attaches itself onto other areas and organs causing pain. Pre Menstrual Dysphoric Disorder is a hormonal disruption occurring before menstruation that causes severe pain and extreme feelings of hopelessness. The only problem with both prognosis’ is that I have ammenorhea; I do not menstruate.

Only laparoscopy can confirm wether I have endometriosis or not, until then I have Undiagnosis.

** it has now been six years without confirmation **  

14 thoughts on “Undiagnosis

      • Any good chakra cleanses for lower back pain? I had some last January and it had me literally yelling out loud – it felt like a bolt of lightning had struck me.

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      • If there were any decent reiki practitioners around here… the meditation is something I’ve been doing since late teenage.

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  1. Do you specially work on your back? Try adding some crystals around you (if your into them) it did take a while but I focused on my pelvis and did some extremely intense meditations. I’d love to train as a reiki practitioner and when I move to Rotterdam you can be my guinea pig 😊

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  2. Am so sorry you have such a problem.

    Oh my touch by this post. this blew me away. Thank you for taking the time to share these write up through these words.

    These words are painted in truth, experience and perspective. I especially love how you started it and how you ended the write up. Beautifully written and as I read through again on each line I was amazed . Each word you used are true and reflective of my personal encounter with all these year.

    Don’t worry too much. Its goona be diagnosed. And you are coming out from it. OK. Always have a positive mind towards you worries and problems.

    This produced a smile on my tired face after a long day. You’re appreciated.

    You are welcome Mrs ibizagoldgirl
    PATRICKSTORIES
    Peace ✌and Love ❤

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  3. Oh my touch by this post. this blew me away. Thank you for taking the time to share these write up through these words.

    These words are painted in truth, experience and perspective. I especially love how you started it and how you ended the write up. Beautifully written and as I read through again on each line I was touched by such word you used and how you are facing such problem. I know how its difficult for you right now. But have thses positive mind towards
    the problem. All gonna be OK. Always remember to say these word each day- ALL IS WELL.

    You post rememberd me of the true and reflection of my personal encounter with people having health issues I come across everyday.

    Take care all is well.

    Thanks for liking my post.

    You are welcome Mrs

    #PATRICKSTORIES
    Peace ✌and Love ❤

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    • Thank you so much.
      I began this blog to accompany my grief counselling and to improve my general writing. I didn’t know then that I’d become a life writer or that I’d still be blogging years later.
      My experiences have changed me and the way I communicate. I appreciate the power of words and am delighted you enjoyed mine 🌟

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